Just last week I hit the “send” button of an email containing my official resignation letter. After taking a 2-month break away from my real estate office, I finally decided it was time to stop putting it off.I’m all
I’m all about being very smart and wise about income and savings, so maybe this might be a little odd to you when I tell you that you should quit your job. Of course, being financially stable should be a top priority on your list, but sometimes, when your job becomes destructive and intrusive to you life, it’s probably best to consider quitting. Here are the top signs I saw that were warnings for me to quit – maybe they’ll resonate with you.
#1: I suffered from occupational burnout
Before I was laid off my job at the car dealership, I was forcing myself to somehow split my focuses in half. But instead of dedicating 50% of my efforts into each, I burned myself out by putting 100% full-time dedication into both.
Let me tell you, occupational burnout is a real thing. I was juggling a few clients, as well as getting new clients, and focusing on helping other Realtors at my office build their businesses. Investing full-time efforts into real estate while I was subject to my desk at the dealership was really tough, especially when I had to resort to angling my computer screen a certain way to avoid cameras and utilize Google Incognito windows in order to get my client work done during slow hours at the dealership. I took tons of big risks doing that, which I shouldn’t have, but it was the only way to get work done so that I could go home and get as much rest as possible.
My car dealership work days were either 7AM-4PM or 9AM-6PM, and immediately I would change, eat, touch up my hair and makeup and speed to my real estate office to make it in time for agent trainings at 7PM. I wouldn’t go home until 10PM and wouldn’t sleep until around midnight because I had to prepare my 3 meals for the next day.
I ate breakfast and lunch at my dealership desks and didn’t take a lunch break so I could get overtime pay. Then after the day was done at the dealership I had less than an hour to transition over to my real estate duties. I did this five days a week, and it wore me out to the point where I started to hit mental blocks where I couldn’t comprehend conversations anymore because I experienced so much mental fatigue and brain fog.
Eventually it got to the point where I would frequently cry at my desk at work and often go to the bathroom, lock myself in a stall and stifle the impending anxiety attacks that I experienced.
#2: I had to be someone who I wasn’t
In the real estate business, you can be a fierce Realtor if you’re a well-dressed young socialite and are able to hold your ground in negotiations. It sounded great in the beginning, but the more I forced myself to become this cutthroat young businesswoman, I felt like I was starting to fabricate a life full of lies.
There’s the saying: Fake it ’till you make it. And such was the tactic with real estate. I had to dress my best every single day because every public encounter with a stranger was another opportunity to get a client. I had to speak a certain way and carry myself a certain way. Everything I discussed had to be about real estate. I couldn’t talk about things like anime or music, or you know, anything I liked, because I would be judged for it.
I could never be myself, and it killed me. After having gone through so much self-destruction both mentally and physically with the body dysmorphia, low self-esteem and bulimia I dealt with for literally half of my 24-year life, I felt like I was beginning the same cycle of insecurity and self-hatred again. I kept trying to shove myself into a mold that I clearly did not fit in, and started to blame myself for my lack of success because I wasn’t the model Realtor I was supposed to be.
It boiled down to selling my looks, my speech, and my personality in return for a client.
Could I sell myself? I couldn’t. Because I felt like I had to act like a different person in order to be successful. Doing this day-to-day made me feel like a cynical, selfish bigot, and I felt like I was living a lie.
Most of all, I had to grin and bare it when faced with asshole clients or peers in fear of losing out on business. I am definitely not the kind of person to tolerate being treated unfairly, rudely, or of any kind, and having to deal with being mistreated or underestimated was something I just could not stand to do.
#3: I didn’t make enough (or rather, any) money
I spent a ton of time on real estate and did not face a good return, and I understand that not everyone will experience the same results as me. But this sign still stands: do you feel like you are getting paid fairly in exchange for the work you are putting in?
Getting laid off from the dealership was in a way, a blessing to me, but it came with its drawbacks – I suddenly had no guaranteed paycheck. That meant I had to dive into real estate full-time and pray that I could close a file in the next 30 days when I had no clients at the time.
You’re probably thinking how crazy I am to voluntarily quit my job when it was the last thing I was counting on for income. But I’m going to tell you a secret I never told anyone else until now: I didn’t make enough money. That’s one of the biggest reasons why.
Every day I had to get up, get dressed in professional attire, and bust my ass to find clients. I would drive around neighborhoods, go door-to-door canvassing, get yelled at by people who didn’t want real estate services, and purposely spark conversations with every person I came across in public settings so I could pass them my business card in the hopes of earning their business.
I worked so hard, probably harder than I ever have in my entire life before I made this blog, and I didn’t earn anything. After all of that, I invested so much time in clients that I picked up in only to have them fall through for whatever reason.
And before you say it was due to lack of knowledge, I definitely do not believe that was the issue. I went to training several days a week and shadowed several other Realtors in my office as well as even my broker. So I was definitely not uninformed about the business.
I tried to be enthusiastic and remain positive, but slowly I started to burn through my checkings account just to pay my bills and eventually began charging all of my necessities to my credit cards. Every time I swiped my card or saw a deduction in my checkings account I tried to instill more hope in myself with some cheesy affirmation that money would eventually come to me.
The night I started the Baller on a Budget was the same night I had the harsh realization that real estate just wasn’t for me. I wasn’t financially prepared to take the full-time dive into this new career path. Granted, I only had my salesperson license a little under one year and I had no savings to sit on. Because of that, I struggled.
Real estate is a great way to make money and I’ve seen people make well into the millions, but where I currently am in life, I’m simply not ready to invest so much of my efforts into the real estate business as I am fully devoted to Bb.
So, I finally sent my resignation letter and moved on. I figured that I had two options: be broke and unhappy, or broke and happy. Either way, I was going to be broke, so I might as well choose what’s best for my mental health. The same goes for you: If you don’t feel that your job is paying you what you deserve for working or tolerating during your time there, then it’s probably time to move on and find something that’s more fulfilling, or at the least, pays you well for your time and effort.
Do you feel like you are experiencing the same signs as I was? Let’s chat in the comments below.
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